{"id":6821,"date":"2024-12-17T02:36:57","date_gmt":"2024-12-16T18:36:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/?post_type=parenting_articles&#038;p=6821"},"modified":"2024-12-17T02:48:41","modified_gmt":"2024-12-16T18:48:41","slug":"%e6%84%88%e9%a0%91%e5%8a%a3%e7%9a%84%e5%b0%8f%e6%9c%8b%e5%8f%8b-%e5%85%a7%e5%bf%83%e6%84%88%e8%84%86%e5%bc%b1","status":"publish","type":"parenting_articles","link":"https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/en\/parenting_articles\/%e6%84%88%e9%a0%91%e5%8a%a3%e7%9a%84%e5%b0%8f%e6%9c%8b%e5%8f%8b-%e5%85%a7%e5%bf%83%e6%84%88%e8%84%86%e5%bc%b1\/","title":{"rendered":"The more mischievous a child is, the more vulnerable he or she is?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"6821\" class=\"elementor elementor-6821\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e8a4fc2 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"e8a4fc2\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dcd5ec4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"dcd5ec4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 05-08-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p>By: Family Dynamics Counseling Psychologist<br \/>Shelly Mok<\/p><p>There is a famous picture book called \"Little Mao Gets Into Trouble\" in\nwhich the main character, Little Mao, often makes mistakes and gets into\ntrouble. Whenever he gets into trouble, he always says loudly, \"It's not my\nfault,\" \"It's not my fault,\" \"It was an accident,\" or \"It's xxx's fault,\" and so\non.<br \/><br \/>In reality, a child named Sheung Kit came to my counseling room to play\ntherapy, and his personality was very much like Little Mao. To the class\nteacher and his parents, Sheung Kit was a child who \"shirked his\nresponsibility and refused to admit his fault\".<br \/><br \/>Once, after we had started play therapy for a while, he was playing with an\nambulance in the playroom and accidentally broke the flashing light on the\nambulance. Before I could say anything, Sheung Kit did his usual thing\nand said loudly, \"It's not my fault! and \"I didn't break it! After a while, I\nslowly said to him, \"When toys are played with for a long time, they will\nbe broken. When children are having fun, sometimes they will accidentally break their toys. Look, there is a box here, specializing in collecting broken\ntoys, so that children who do not want to let them go, slowly and they say\ngoodbye. If you want, you can put the ambulance in there.\"<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c64ef2e elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"c64ef2e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 05-08-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"751\" height=\"500\" src=\"https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/imag2-1024x682.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-6832\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/imag2-1024x682.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/imag2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/imag2-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/imag2-1536x1023.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/imag2-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/imag2.jpg 1600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 751px) 100vw, 751px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8b84bba elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8b84bba\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Sheung Kit didn't say a word, looking down and playing quietly with other\ncars. After a while, he suddenly said to himself in a voice I had never heard\nbefore, very weak, \"If it was the director of discipline, it would not have\nsaid so ...... If it was the principal, it would not have said so. If it was\nmom ......\" \"Just now ...... was I ...... accidentally ...... Sheung Kit\u2019s voice\nwas as weak as a mosquito.<\/p><p>What does it say about a child whose voice was so loud just now and\nsuddenly becomes so weak?<\/p><p>In fact, his voice is used to cover up his inner fears, insecurities, frustrations\nand low self-image. However, even though he knows he is wrong, he is\nunable to take responsibility for his actions because he is afraid and cannot\nbear the condemnation from others. As the saying goes, \"A person with a\nbroken mouth should not have a broken bowl\". It means that you should\nnot mention people's weaknesses to avoid their displeasure. In order to\nmaintain his dignity, he makes the first move and fights back to defend\nhimself, but the result is more punishment and reprimand, leading to an\neven lower self-image and a vicious cycle.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-99ae8e9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"99ae8e9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"600\" height=\"401\" src=\"https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image3.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-6839\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image3.jpg 600w, https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image3-300x201.jpg 300w, https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/image3-18x12.jpg 18w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-86e8c0c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"86e8c0c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"p1\">The more mischievous a child is on the surface, the more vulnerable he or\nshe is on the inside. In the end, Sheung Kit, like Little Mao, only hopes that\nafter he makes a mistake, his mother will still hug him and say, \"Mommy\nloves you! With this acceptance, the child can regain his courage, say \"I'm\nsorry\" sincerely, and take responsibility for his own actions and life. No\nwonder the Little Mao series of books have been so popular with children!<\/p><p class=\"p1\">As parents, they should have nothing against somebody. Accepting your\nchild's deviant behavior and setting boundaries is also an art.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"featured_media":6826,"template":"","class_list":["post-6821","parenting_articles","type-parenting_articles","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/parenting_articles\/6821","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/parenting_articles"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/parenting_articles"}],"version-history":[{"count":16,"href":"https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/parenting_articles\/6821\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6851,"href":"https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/parenting_articles\/6821\/revisions\/6851"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6826"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/elchkcw.edu.hk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6821"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}